11-17-2017, 04:23 AM
Just to add, I haven't had the real thing but I've put some miles on an inflatable EllypseArt toy, and got--adventuresome with it, as in, ten pumps. I concur with Arcticwolf: the further in you can get it, the more comfortable it is. Use lots of good lube.
No toy? Just hit the produce aisle at the grocery store and apply your imagination, LOL!
And, as to feeling guilty, thinking of your previous lover ... I think he'd want you to take the chance to be happy. Wouldn't you wish that for him?