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52 minutes ago, Eagle said:




Sorry I am getting caught up in the EC nonsense.  I did want to take some time to genuinely bid you a welcome to the "community."  With capital quotation remarks.


There is quite the variety of zoophiles ... all shapes and sizes.  Some are rich, some are poor, I know zoophiles working in a huge variety of professions including tech, medicine, construction, truck driving, art and media (I know at least one zoophile whom is a professional radio host, another with experience in television and even some big release movies).




Try not to judge too harshly.  I have major depression and general anxiety ... if we ever meet (THIS IS NOT A MEETUP REQUEST!), I'm pretty sure my social awkwardness would exude profusely.  I won't tell you not to judge at all, though ... some calling themselves zoophiles are best not knowing, I'll spare you those horror stories for now, but feel free to ask me in a PM or another thread if you're morbidly curious (but be warned, some truly, deeply, brutally evil folk don the zeta symbol).




30-30 may well be famous though honestly I don't remember the name prior to here.  I self- ... or maybe more accurately, mutually exiled myself from the community in the early 2000s, kinda poking my head back in now.  Quite a few names I do remember are here.  I was probably mostly remembered for being the co-founder of zoophile.org which earned an ill reputation and I regret having associated with.




As with any community, there's a lot of drama.




I would like to proffer some advice.  I know, boring old guy give boring dos and don'ts ... I went through the same thing and learned the hard way on some things.




First, find a way to chill and take things slowly and carefully.  Bide your time.  I think you have a sense of the importance of this already, waiting to get a dog.  Listen to your paranoid fears, don't cave into them, but do carefully and quietly check things out.




Second, accept that you are a human being, as flawed and effed up as the rest of us.  Its very easy to take something the wrong way, misunderstand and get completely the wrong idea about someone or something that has no bearing on the reality.  Find a way to check yourself and your thinking.  And accept the reality that the special stresses of being a zoophile will invariably have ill effects.  Depression, anxiety, anger management, diabetes, blood pressure, drug abuse ... being a member of such a terribly ostracized group makes you very vulnerable to these things.  /Don't/ think you can avoid them by "being strong."  Find ways to stay healthy mentally and physically, find ways of letting off steam that don't risk serious ramifications from an overdose, and remember the better off you are, the stronger your life, the more comfortably and securely you will be able to provide future animal companions.  Falling into a gutter and becoming homeless, I could not care for a beautiful dog whom was my wife for several years ... find a way to steer yourself from having to face this situation I let myself fall into.  Trust me, you don't want to have a four-legged lover falling ill when you don't have the money to get them the care they need.  I can't emphasize enough how much that will destroy your sense of self-worth.  Find a counselor psychologist you can trust, even if you don't think you need one ... don't consider mental health help as something for other people that are weak.




Third, be careful about judgment.  As I said before, I'm not saying not to judge at all, but ... as I said in #2, we zoophiles have a constant, strong stress on us.  It does, yes, break many of us.  I know its easy to revulse away people with bad issues, and I'm not saying you have to fight your revulsion to the point of spending a lot of personal time with those with revolting mental health issues, but ... just at least try to accept in your mind that this is a difficult, stressful life.  If you can't bring yourself to befriend someone with a lot of issues, try to at least take something constructive out of this -- like inspiration to keep yourself mentally healthy to avoid degrading to that point.

I honestly have no idea how you'd go about meeting another zoophile, I have only done so in real life by random chance; much before I ever joined any zoo community, so I honestly grew up with some sense of normality about that, there was also my uncle, but he died beforehand; but meeting up with a person that knows you are a zoophile beforehand, that sounds quite harsh and I am specially paranoid, I know you are not requesting a meetup, but I can't understand how people would go about meeting irl like that.




If you ask me I actually do live a pretty happy successful life, at least so far, but being a zoophile is that stone in the shoe that doesn't allow me to have pretty much a perfect deal; and each time I have some sexual desire it becomes very bothering, given due to my "decent" physical appereance and attitude I could get laid any time; but it won't work unless there's fur in my face.